I Can’t Believe She Did That!

I Can’t Believe She Did That! Is this a phrase that has come out of your mouth? Or how about…”I’m not judging but…” We all do this… we tend to JUDGE other people for what they do, don’t do, what they say, how they say it. This is normal. We are coming from what we know and what we believe to be RIGHT.

By the way when you do say “I’m not judging but…” there is a really really good chance you are actually Judging. Anytime you are upset with the way someone did something, didn’t do something, the way they said something etc… you are judging them.

We all need to practice TRUSTING that however someone else is living, reacting, talking it is perfect for who they are, what they need to learn and what they have learned.

We judge our ‘Mother-in-law’ for the way they do things, we judge our partner for their quirky habits, we judge our neighbours for how they raise their kids, but the real lesson here is to stop Judging and trust that everything is perfect. What ever we do, say, react in any given moment is perfect. It’s perfect for what we need to learn or the lessons others might need in our lives.

When you judge someone else all you do is create turmoil within yourself. Negative thoughts, create negative emotions, which will negatively impact your physical, mental and emotional health. Anytime we are wasting energy worrying about someone else’s behaviour we are doing our bodies harm.

The people who push our buttons are doing it to help us to grow, to gain compassion for ourselves and for others. The next time you are pointing your finger at someone, turn it back on you and look within yourself to see the lessons you need to gain from this judgment.

Do yourself a favour, stop expending so much energy on other people’s stuff and focus on bringing more JOY in your life.

Always Remember: You are perfect for today and so are they.

Written by: Jacquie Hermans – laugh@lightnup.ca